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How to be more emotionally intelligent (without trying so hard) 🧵 for @threadapalooza

The most competent people I know are pretty good at basically anything they put their minds to, because they just design a process and run it. I think

I think it’s useful to divide emotional intelligence into: in, out, and between. In: getting a detailed sense of your state, what it might be tellin

The problem with treating our thoughts and emotions as who we are is that it means we have to *be* whatever thought/emotion happens to arise in us. T

I think it’s useful to divide emotional intelligence into: in, out, and between. In: getting a detailed sense of your state, what it might be tellin

Every dimension of existence has a frame that is fitting to it. In the dimension of human productivity, it’s more useful and accurate to see the trash

Through the lens of magic we see more accurately that our freedom is not what we believe it to be. Our action in the world is either being determined

Personal magic exists on the horizontal axis. It results from the desires and intentions of our internal parts (what Tomberg calls the “personal will”

Language is basically magic. Using a series of incantations, vibrations in the air, you can make someone see something, feel something, believe someth

Book of Kegan — A Field Guide to the Stages of Adult Development

In daily life, when you notice disturbance arising—in traffic, during a difficult email, before a meeting — pause. Take ten seconds to drop from story

Anxiety is an evolutionary alarm detecting pure openness — the ungraspable torrent of raw aliveness. The freefall of adult life that has no reliable h

Pith Instruction When disturbance surfaces, bring attention to immediate, raw, bodily sensation — no interpretation, no story. Hang out with the vulne

The textures of sensation vary in intensity: tingling, flickering, subtle, effervescent pulses in space. The tightness in your chest, the heat in your

drop into the physical experience and let the waves of feeling move, sparkle, dissolve, or linger without interference.

Sensation-level focus – Attention is placed on raw physical sensations (tightness in the chest, flutter in the belly, heat in the face) rather than on

When disturbance hits — whether it’s the punch in the gut from unkind words, the cannonball of grief from a rejection letter, or the heat rising in yo

Ego process tends to hurry through physiological or psychological stress cycles. Our experience shifts between biological, adult, and spiritual capaci

Some of these supportive qualities include: Groundedness: the stability of someone who doesn’t need to flee from any experience Open heart: warmth tha

But you can’t optimize systems in a context that’s changing, especially if it’s changing in unpredictable ways. Removing inefficiencies when circumsta

Anxiety is an evolutionary alarm detecting pure openness — the ungraspable torrent of raw aliveness. The freefall of adult life that has no reliable h

Here is a better set of beginner meditation instructions: “Settle in a posture that, for you, provides a good compromise between comfort and alertness

The Practice in Brief When disturbance arises: Notice the urge to escape into story or action Drop attention to the body and find the sensation Stay w

One way to understand meditation is as a return to raw, immediate, present experience. Our habitual interpretations act as buffers against truth. Inst

Every dimension of existence has a frame that is fitting to it. In the dimension of human productivity, it’s more useful and accurate to see the trash

Quick thread on coincidences, synchronicity and magic. I think it was Gordon White who defined magical practice as working to maximize the number of m

Don’t forget this: Nothing is truly ever ordinary. I’m telling you, Protect the truest things about you and it will become easier to hear the truth ev

Have you ever told a lie and then forgot it was a lie? When you tell a story for long enough, you begin to believe it. We adorn ourselves with any num

If you want to decipher who you are, it’s good to begin with the question of what stories have been told about you. Do this not because they are true

Simone Weil said, “Man only escapes from the laws of this world in lightning flashes. Instants when everything stands still, instants of contemplation