emotional intelligence

a big theme from opening sessions at @bowmansschool is the importance of paying attention to your feelings a few people have said they don't have access to them, so i thought i'd write a few quick notes on hacks i've used as a formerly severely dissociated person:

A leading indicator of personal growth is how curious you are able to be with all your emotions - especially the ones you weren't allowed to feel as a kid.

Let’s say someone has both a high-functioning theory of mind and an overflowing well of compassion. What then? Well, this is what Hoffman calls “empathic over-arousal.” A person will feel so worn down by the intensity of other people’s emotions that it wears them down — it turns their distress into my actual distress. This might not seem like a bad... See more

Mentalizing Emotions Wheel https://t.co/7F7mOdoBzf

🧵UNDERSTANDING AND WORKING WITH TOXIC SHAME: A GUIDE 🧵 This is a mega thread on the theory and mechanics behind shame, along with some techniques and practices for how to work with and clear it from the mind and body.

When I train leaders in empathy, one of the first hurdles I need to get over is this stereotype that empathy is too soft and squishy for the work environment. It’s easy to debunk that. There are decades of evidence showing that empathy is a workplace superpower.

Employees who believe their organizations, and especially their managers, are empathic t... See more

There is a skill of how to access information from your emotions. Most people don’t know how. They literally cannot read their feelings, in the same way that illiterates cannot read words. Intellectuals are often illiterate *plus* deny it’s possible to learn to read. 1/