emotional intelligence

Blaming and complaining are mixtures of genuine grief and defensive anger.

a big theme from opening sessions at @bowmansschool is the importance of paying attention to your feelings a few people have said they don't have access to them, so i thought i'd write a few quick notes on hacks i've used as a formerly severely dissociated person:

When we feel stressed, anxious, irritated, or angry, one of the things that happens to the mind is that it shrinks down and zooms in on the challenge at hand—the stressful moment, the emotion we don’t want to feel. There’s a researcher, Andrew Huberman at Stanford, who calls this “the soda straw view” of the mind. This is the view of stress. When w

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When I train leaders in empathy, one of the first hurdles I need to get over is this stereotype that empathy is too soft and squishy for the work environment. It’s easy to debunk that. There are decades of evidence showing that empathy is a workplace superpower.

Employees who believe their organizations, and especially their managers, are empathic t... See more

🧵UNDERSTANDING AND WORKING WITH TOXIC SHAME: A GUIDE 🧵 This is a mega thread on the theory and mechanics behind shame, along with some techniques and practices for how to work with and clear it from the mind and body.

This may seem like a dumb question, but have you ever thought about how it is that people can feel their emotions? The answer is that they pay attention to their body. Experiencing an emotion is primarily noticeable based on bodily sensations. People don’t always consciously notice that this is what they’re doing because it’s become so automatic, b... See more