the most grating, useless (directionally correct) piece of advice i ever got was "get out of your head"
throughout my 20s it was the most common feedback i got & always made my blood boil
how i got out of my head, and why "get out of your head" is a worthless string of words đź§µ
You have to let go of these many layers of constriction, one after the other. Often, this letting go requires the adoption of different practices at different times. Meditators often drift through traditions, for the simple reason that the average person’s head contains heterogeneous clusters of difficulty. Complicated.
“What is stopping me from surrendering fully and open-heartedly to my entire existence, in this moment?”
It is my experience that The Other Thing isn’t some special construction produced with effort, like a cabin you build. Instead, it’s what happens when you are fully at peace with the facts of life and death, yourself and your place in the univers... See more
I think that words like “enlightenment” are silly, and I certainly wouldn’t self-apply them. To me, that terminology is a vain attempt to wrest a prize from the unending mystery. Nothing and nobody is “done,” or perfected. Everything is ongoing, and my current mental condition, as solid as it feels, might disappear tomorrow, or might deepen far bey... See more
i've found that embodying deep okayness marks the beginning of a multi-year process of feeling deep pain.. but with no/minimal suffering
when we finally get a taste of true self-love & secure attachment with reality, all parts of ourselves that feel unloved scramble from the shadows to the surface in order to be met and attuned to with that love
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