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Don’t hold on. — That is all.
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My dads an incredibly smart man.
•Great leader
•Can fix anything
•Socially strong & networks well
•Read a book a week for 30 years
He NEVER moved up in his company.
I asked him WHY & the answer he gave me brought me to... See more
life nudges and Parenting and family stuff
If you are lucky you have 18 summers with your kids at home.
Most truths are like that, easy to hear or recite, hard to live in the sense that slowness is hard for most of us, requiring commitment, perseverance, and return after you stray. Because the job is not to know; it’s to become. A sociopath knows what kindness is and how to weaponize it; a saint becomes it.
lithub.com • Rebecca Solnit: Slow Change Can Be Radical Change
“Helping people is a sensitive process. It needs sensitivity. The temptation is to want to fix everything for somebody, and that person doesn’t want fixing. They need help when they need help. I think we’re too quick to give advice. I’m as guilty as anyone...in fact, I’m probably guiltier than most people because I think I have the answers all the time, which, of course, I don’t.”
“But I am immensely touched when people just sit with me. The less we speak, the better. If someone talks about being in trouble or in pain, rather not speak but just take their hand or touch them. I think it’s because it’s such a subtle thing, and words can be very...distancing. You don’t have to speak. Words are something that become superfluous and fairly meaningless in certain times.”
“I’ll tell you what I try to whisper to my daughter. I try to tell her to enjoy the age she’s in and the stage she’s at. It won’t come again. And it’s brief, so enjoy it. Life should be enjoyed and not be full of concerns. Not be full of worry about things that, in the end, as one gets to the end, one sees are things which are not even necessary. And if they are necessary, like money, because society makes it necessary, not to be ruled by it. Not to make decisions based on these things that society demands, but to make decisions on things that enhance life.”
Two clay pots
A father sends his son to school. After 12years the son comes back and the father asks: "Did they teach you about that which cannot be seen, which cannot be heard and which cannot be known, yet without which nothing can be seen, heard or known?" - "No, what is that?" replies the son. So the father begins teaching:
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“Humans are not ideally set up to understand logic; they are ideally set up to understand stories.”
~ Roger Schank
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