marie kondo's "thank you" to thingd you are discarding is an incredible piece of psychotech, a bit of scaffolding that gradually builds you up to be able to cleanly handle the infinite daily micro-griefs (and accumulated lifetime macro-griefs) borne of inevitable impermanence
When you learn something new for the first time you flail miserably at it, but eventually you identify your weaknesses and over time the process toward solution becomes almost instinctual. Things get better and easier, and somehow you’ve developed into this whole new person who could do the hard things you once dreaded, now effortlessly. I find... See more
But the point is: you have to loosen some constraints to give yourself a chance at solving the key problems: they are hard enough in themselves. If you impose as many constraints on yourself as the average person does, the likelihood that you will pull off what is most central to you approaches zero. So, seek clarity on which constraints are real... See more
The paradox of human connection:
We avoid speaking difficult truths to protect relationships.
But that's what prevents those relationships from becoming truly meaningful.
You can’t be accepted for who you are if you’re not showing up as who you are.