We are all tempted to create a God of our own making, who will uphold the status quo and baptize our values as God’s definitive word. When God challenges our way of life and the religious and cultural values we hold dear, we are tempted to run away in search of a new god—a god of our own making—who will support our privileges and prejudices and... See more
I had a rough childhood and one day as a teenager when I was being particularly obnoxious in school a teacher pulled me aside and gave me a talking-to that, on a several year delay, helped this click for me in a profound way.
She said "I don't know the details, but I do know you have a hard life outside of school. But... See more
The solution for the eternal child’s desperation is simply to do. Make art, write, clean without thinking, get off the phone [in a word create things and learn to sit with the mistakes, by doing this you accept death by dwelling in the world instead of dwelling in the postponement of fantasy (“i’ll do that when i grow up”)].... See more
according to me: you will fail to integrate so long as you look inwards
integration requires you to change your context, renegotiate your existing relationships, remove some, and bring in new ones (eg you may need to move to a different job)