Women, in general, just want someone who treats them like a person. Who enjoys being with them. Cares what they think. Treats them well. Respects their feelings and ideas. Being funny helps.
If you're a man who is not able to find someone, it's most likely you need to work on your personality.
If you are confused about your feelings, or in denial about how the world works, or unable to read others, it will be harder to self-actualize. If you are too constrained by what you think is going on to notice what is actually going on—you will miss important data that would allow you to make better choices.
“Drink because you are happy, but never because you are miserable. Never drink when you are wretched without it, or you will be like the grey-faced gin-drinker in the slum; but drink when you would be happy without it, and you will be like the laughing peasant of Italy. Never drink because you need it, for this is rational drinking, and the way to... See more
being performative hurts everyone in the situation; you are (subtly) deceiving others who may think they are interfacing with the real you. and you injure your true self by shoving them down to signal something you think is valuable/necessary that you do not authentically possess
There is no escaping pain in this life. Or at least I have never met someone who hasn’t felt the pain of being alive and being human. It’s a part of this incarnation we took. So instead of trying to not feel it or numb it, we can transmute it. Turning something that hurts into something that brings forth light.
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