Optimal grip
An easy way to increase agency is to remove "problem" from your vocabulary and replace it with "puzzle". It sounds absurd but "problem" activates your amygdala and "puzzle" activates your prefrontal cortex. Try it. Self-induced placebo that works.
It’s kind of funny that as you get better at noticing things, one of the harder things to notice is the difference between what you notice and what others notice. once you’ve noticed something it tends to feel “obvious” and it’s natural to assume everyone else notices it too
So many decisions boil down to a simple choice between integrity and inferiority
Throughout all these years I’ve tried to pass my words through three gates: “Is it true? Is it loving? Is it necessary?”
Because we must be sustained by a sense of what we are for, and not just what we are against. The contemplative path isn’t primarily about learning—it’s about living. Through contemplation, we begin to see differently, to love mor
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A person can’t be contained in your ideas about them. This was a core idea for us. To whatever extent I assumed I knew who Johanna was, I treated her as something that I could fit in my head — as something smaller than me. But she couldn’t fit in my head, nor I in hers: that was the exciting thing about it. You can only ever know another individual... See more