Reminders for myself
4. The strongest relationships aren't those that start perfect—they're the ones where both people consistently choose each other through the inevitable changes life brings
If I am clenched, enraged or chaotic I cannot connect.
The Soul Work of Losing Control
not JIFFing—judging, interpreting, fixing, or freezing
Dear Bear: how do I get over someone I thought was perfect for me? + what do I do if my friend is "too picky"?
You have to see the world for what it is, in all its brutality, and you need to do this while keeping your heart soft for the beauty that makes it all worthwhile.
Henrik Karlsson • Repeat Great Words, Repeat Them Stubbornly
“Most people never experience what it is like to be with someone that allows them to speak without
1. Judging you
2. Trying to fix you
3. Trying to help you
4. Trying to defend themselves
It can be a beautiful, psychoactive experience.”
—Joe Hudson
What VIEW Is
VIEW stands for:
• V: Vulnerability - Speaking your truth even when it's scary
• I: Impartiality - Not trying to achieve a specific outcome for yourself or others
• E: Empathy - Being with a person in their emotions without trying to change their state
• W: Wonder - Being curious without needing answers, maintaining a sense of awe
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I’m sure I’ll continue to cringe at my own writing but I’ll try to follow these three guiding principles: don’t write your feelings, don’t write cliches, and don’t use self-deprecation. Often, vulnerability is just telling the darkest truth, the truth you’re the least inclined to share.