Reminders for myself

Your habits always come hunting after you. The self you construct will haunt you

I’m beginning to realize the start of all intimacy and true understanding is when you say what you really mean.

Often when people are stuck in life it’s because they’re holding out for the delusional possibility of a costless way of getting what they want, instead of just paying the cost

what an insane dynamic to keep being true: > I spend a lifetime hiding myself, obfuscating my thoughts, trying to pander to what I think people want from me > It pretty much always blows up in my face, bringing about the exact outcomes I tried to avoid, while also making me feel

I used to be a parrot, echoing other people's ideas, opinions, and beliefs, because I wasn’t sure of my own. I thought that by ‘borrowing’ and mimicking, I’d be more likeable, it’d be easier to seem cool, clever, or to belong. Looking back now, it gives me the ick—the amount of shit I nodded along to, gross. I think I was scared of looking stupid, ... See more

not JIFFing—judging, interpreting, fixing, or freezing

When you learn something new for the first time you flail miserably at it, but eventually you identify your weaknesses and over time the process toward solution becomes almost instinctual. Things get better and easier, and somehow you’ve developed into this whole new person who could do the hard things you once dreaded, now effortlessly. I find thi... See more