Reminders for myself

"It’s worth recognising that people who are sincere tend to project their sincerity onto others, and people who are performative tend to project their performativity onto others. It’s a bit like entirely different realities with different rules that run adjacent to each other and

the subtle posture that has taken a lot of experimentation and failure to cultivate is like 1. realize that most people won’t get you or understand or care 2. be at peace with that, not bitter or vindictive, and look past them for the “few” that get it, and care

“The soul becomes dyed with the colour of its thoughts” Marcus Aurelius.

It’s kind of funny that as you get better at noticing things, one of the harder things to notice is the difference between what you notice and what others notice. once you’ve noticed something it tends to feel “obvious” and it’s natural to assume everyone else notices it too

It seems a common experience in the lives of people with high agency is that they, at some point, metaphorically, lean against a wall and discover that there is a hidden door.