Reminders for myself

Growing your sense of agency leads you to see more degrees of freedom in your life. The painful corollary of that is: when you see that you are freer than you thought, you also have more responsibility. But once you accept the responsibility, that is the real gift, not the freedom.

“Love is the extremely difficult realization that something other than oneself is real.”

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Iris Murdoch

“Inspiration is for amateurs. The rest of us just show up and get to work. If you wait around for the clouds to part and a bolt of lightening to strike you in the brain, you are not going to make an awful lot of work. All the best ideas come out of the process; they come out of the work itself.”

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Chuck Close

“Time is nature’s way to keep everything from happening all at once.”

Accepting who you are doesn’t mean you should stay in situations that hurt you. I advise people, both strangers and close friends, to leave relationships when I think their care is unreciprocated or they clearly are unfulfilled. I think that if you find yourself consistently directing your love towards places or people that don’t love you back, you... See more