Reminders for myself

When you’re having conflict with someone you care about, try to be the bigger person. It feels way better to be understanding and forgiving than it does to hold a grudge. Sometimes other people need your help to show up as their best self.

You don’t have to do things others do, or have things they have, at the expense of the deeper things you want. You really don’t. Almost everything is an option. You have full permission to ask yourself what really matters to you—whatever that is—and then optimize for that in all hard tradeoffs of life. You’re going to have to make some sacrifices... See more

I love that loop. Write, revise, write, revise. It’s like doing reps in a gym. You can’t expect that 10 pull-ups will add any discernible new muscle. But 30 pull-ups, across three sets, done thrice a week, for a year? Yeah, you’re going to notice the cumulative results of that.

In general, you will look for excuses to not be kind to people. Resist these.

Caring is an independent primary variable . You have to care first before agreeing or disagreeing can mean anything. And to do that you have to have a surplus capacity to care beyond caring about yourself, by working the “caring muscle.”