Nurture

Three ways you unconsciously sabotage yourself: 1 Being afraid of conflict creates conflict in yourself 2 Being afraid of failure makes you play it safe (and then feel like a failure) 3 Being afraid of being alone makes you stay in relationships where you feel alone

Most people never experience what it is like to be with someone that allows them to speak without 1. Judging you 2. Trying to fix you 3. Trying to help you 4. Trying to defend themselves It can be a beautiful, psychoactive experience.

"When you say, “I’m in love with you,” what you’re really saying is that you are the key stimulus that is opening me to the place in myself where I am love, which I can’t get to except through you"

But the point is: you have to loosen some constraints to give yourself a chance at solving the key problems: they are hard enough in themselves. If you impose as many constraints on yourself as the average person does, the likelihood that you will pull off what is most central to you approaches zero. So, seek clarity on which constraints are real a... See more

I regret to inform you that all your goals are just shitty proxies for love and tribal belonging

“It goes both ways. I care for you but you have to allow me. It is actually a very similar thing with love. You have to love me. And I, well, I have to let you love me.”

What kind of world do we want to live in? What kinds of behaviors should be encouraged? Who do you want kids to look up to growing up?

For me, it means committing to my health as just as important as my creative practice and my community.

I want to create something that lures the divine.