Agalia Tan

We live in a world where young women talk openly on social media platforms about how to get men to send you money, how to find a sugar daddy, activities with a veneer of romance that both parties know are actually centered on money. But even for women who are determined to earn their own money, there’s little shyness left.

Quality Time as a lens on experience design means looking for the ways we might stay. How we linger. It is being in relationship. Listening. Remembering. Witnessing each other. Sharing space. Slowing down enough to taste time.

George Leonard on how mastery is nothing but a series of plateaus with brief spurts of progress:

“The most important lessons here — especially for young people — is that even if you’re shooting for the stars, you’re going to spend most of your time on a plateau. That’s where the deepest, most lasting learning takes place, so you might as well enjoy ... See more

Generally speaking, quantification and the logic of optimization which it encourages tend to transform our field of experience into points of aggression, as the sociologist Hartmut Rosa has aptly put it. Data-driven optimization is, in this sense, a way of perceiving the world. And what may matter most about this is not necessarily what it allows u... See more

Scrolling displaces observation, shuts out occasions for self-generated thought, silences out-of-the-blue invitations. Checking the phone reroutes the discomfort of blankness and emptiness. It stoppers authentic—often anxious—waiting.

Media never dies, it only morphs. The old way can only be understood as “compression” — the logical consequence of filtering ideas and people and stories through a tightly constrained broadcast feeding tube. What comes out feels like baby food. The late night talk format will surely be a casualty of media’s democratic revolution. Podcasts and their... See more