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- Instead of asking "Are you the one," ask two questions of each of you. Do I accept my partner despite their shortcomings? Do I commit to nurture them to achieve what is important to them? And likewise, do they accept me and do they commit to me? All you need is four yeses.
from George Blair-West: Is your partner "the one?" Wrong question by George Blair-West
- Cultivating a long attention span
Whatever he’s doing right now, that’s the most important thing. So I encourage him to keep doing it as long as possible. I never say, “Come on! Let’s go!”
We’ll go to the beach or forest, and make things with sticks and sand for half a day before he’s ready to switch.
Other families come to the playground for twent... See morefrom Parenting : Who is it really for?
Closed questions are also bad questions. Instead of surrendering power, the questioner is imposing a limit on how the question can be answered.
from How to Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen by David Brooks
- Question: How can I judge myself less harshly and appreciate myself more?
Ram Dass on self-judgment:
I think that part of it is observing oneself more impersonally. I often use this image, which I think I have used already, but let me say it again. That when you go out into the woods and you look at trees, you see all these different trees. And some ... See more The more we synchronize ourselves with the time in clocks, the more we fall out of sync with our own bodies and the world around us. Borrowing a term from the environmentalist Bill McKibben, Michelle Bastian, a senior lecturer at Edinburgh University and editor of the academic journal Time & Society, has argued that clocks have made us “fatally
... See morefrom The Tyranny Of Time by noemamag.com
When you wake each morning, you not only become freshly aware of your thoughts, you also resituate yourself in your body. We don’t experience the world purely in our minds, but as ‘embodied agents’, says Roy Salomon, a cognitive neuroscientist at the University of Haifa in Israel. Your sense of self is as connected to your limbs and guts as to the
... See morefrom Rubber Hand Illusions Shed New Light on Our Bodily Sense of Self by Shayla Love
Let me be clear: there is no way to make social media safe for children by just making the content less toxic. It’s the phone-based childhood that is harming them, regardless of what they watch . Kids need to be freed from the grip of smartphones and social media, especially through early puberty. This is why two of the four norms I propose for sol
... See morefrom Marshall McLuhan on Why Content Moderation Is a Red Herring by Jon Haidt
- your emotional experiences feel like they are the truth of the world around you, when in reality the culture we live in shapes your emotions...and your emotions serve as a lens for interpreting the world around you.
from In your feelings? Turns out, we all experience emotions differently by Kristen Lindquist