Relationships
Alex Wittenberg and
Relationships
People often destroy their relationships over their whims. "He doesn't go rock climbing with me." "She doesn't do this specific thing when we're having sex." They start to obsess over this lack, mistaking a flight of fancy for a great and vacuous unfulfilled desire that if satisfied, will fix everything. What could have been summarily dismissed bec... See more
Autumn Christian • Tweet
“Once you grow up, you realize you don’t want to be crazy in love.
You want to be calm in love,
stable in love, patient in love,
understood in love, safe in love.
Your partner should give you peace of mind and reassurance, not constant little heart attacks and high anxiety.”
Wanting to be enough for someone else is self-abandonment.
Joe Hudson • Tweet
Embracing excellence means going beyond “the encouraged mediocrity of our society.” - Audre Lorde
“The aim of each thing which we do is to make our lives and the lives of our children richer and more possible.”
— Audre Lorde
"What most of us are waiting for is someone else to really think you’re okay with all your warts, just the way you are." - Charlotte Joko Beck
Sara Campbell on Substack
ritualized, compulsive self-disclosure is not intimacy
it’s often a defense mechanism, one that masquerades as vulnerability but actually kills erotic charge, polarity, and mystery
shared experience, unspoken tension, and real-time attunement are the components of intimacy
it’s often a defense mechanism, one that masquerades as vulnerability but actually kills erotic charge, polarity, and mystery
shared experience, unspoken tension, and real-time attunement are the components of intimacy
Sebastian Ballister • Tweet
One of the central myths of American romance right now is this notion that you and your partner should be able to tell each other anything and everything
I am begging you not to do this
There are so many things about you that are just for you, for your soul, as well as a whole other category of things that are only for your therapist or priest to kno... See more
I am begging you not to do this
There are so many things about you that are just for you, for your soul, as well as a whole other category of things that are only for your therapist or priest to kno... See more