Relationships

the best relationships consist of a series of unbreachable private understandings

You tend to be resentful when your partner lacks in qualities that are your personal superpowers

I think a perfect relationship is a really, really good conversation that keeps on going for your entire life

I think that a fairly reliable mark of high intelligence is the capacity to recognize the signal within the noise of someone's 'wrong' take.

Pseudo-intelligence gleefully pours out the bathwater, raw intelligence finds & nurtures the baby.

I think it’s beautiful how fidelity means both loyalty and level of detail. Because of course it should mean both those things. Of course.

My people are the whitepill people

The ones who try to find ways to support instead of tearing down

The ones who never make fun of others for the way they look or for their struggles

The ones who are kind to others (though sometimes they could be kinder to themselves)

People often destroy their relationships over their whims. "He doesn't go rock climbing with me." "She doesn't do this specific thing when we're having sex." They start to obsess over this lack, mistaking a flight of fancy for a great and vacuous unfulfilled desire that if satisfied, will fix everything. What could have been summarily dismissed... See more

Wanting to be enough for someone else is self-abandonment.