if you stand firmly on a self-lain foundation of patience and trust, someone crossing your boundaries is not so threatening. let them in. see what they do in your space. remove yourself if necessary.
What we can offer after we leave our full-time, big-time jobs is actually a lot, as I found in my chat with our friend @kate_wolfson, a brand strategist and consultant, who’s now freelance after her tenure at Goop. Her advice is practical in the best ways, right down to the book rec that’ll keep creative minds sharp and inspired, and a lesson... See more
Your milieu is not the same as your sister’s. It is an ever-shifting, individual configuration of information flows. The Twitter feed you have curated is a milieu. Your friend group (which is not the same as the friend groups of the other people in that group!) is a milieu.
It is by changing your milieu that you change yourself.
People often destroy their relationships over their whims. "He doesn't go rock climbing with me." "She doesn't do this specific thing when we're having sex." They start to obsess over this lack, mistaking a flight of fancy for a great and vacuous unfulfilled desire that if satisfied, will fix everything. What could have been summarily dismissed... See more