Sublime

Study after study shows that the most important factor in the success of your treatment is your relationship with the therapist, your experience of “feeling felt.” This matters more than the therapist’s training, the kind of therapy they do, or what type of problem you have.

In our daily practical lives, the main problem is that of mental disorder. Not the kind that can be diagnosed and offered a prescription, but a state of chaos that we often fall into.

how we think, how we act, and how we feel is our personality,

I believe Lebow and Spitzer are right; consciously or unconsciously, all too often we use feedback to try to mold other people into how we believe they should be.

Most people who come to see a psychiatrist are suffering from what is called either a neurosis or a character disorder. Put most simply, these two conditions are disorders of responsibility, and as such they are opposite styles of relating to the world and its problems. The neurotic assumes too much responsibility; the person with a character

Some impressive research results have emerged from homogeneous and intensive partial hospitalization programs. These groups offer the borderline individual containment, emotional regulation training, emotional support, and interpersonal learning. They also demand personal accountability in an environment that counters regression and unhealthy

The popular notion is that inner states of being—emotions, needs, fears, inhibitions, drives, instincts, and so on—generate your dysfunctional actions. Perhaps an "unresolved" relationship with your mother causes you to avoid romantic relationships. Perhaps a traumatic experience you had as a child causes you to fear authority figures. Perhaps you

As a therapist, I have three sources of information: each client’s report, what happens in front of me in the room, and how I feel sitting with the client.