Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, HER Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed

no matter our external circumstances, we have choices about how to live our lives and that, regardless of what has happened, what we’ve lost, or how old we are, as Rita put it, it ain’t over till it’s over.

“Almost is always the hardest, isn’t it?” she said one afternoon. “Almost getting something.

because if you sign up for intimacy, getting hurt is part of the deal.

Wendell once said: “The nature of life is change and the nature of people is to resist change.”

Displacement (shifting a feeling toward one person onto a safer alternative) is considered a neurotic defense,

“The future is hope,” Julie said. “But where’s the hope if you already know what happens? What are you living for then? What are you striving for?”

the past as “a vast encyclopedia of calamities you can still fix.”

“living on borrowed time”: our lives are literally on loan to us. Despite what we think in our youth, none of us have all that much time.

Everything you feel—anxiety, elation, anguish—blows in and out again.