Sublime

J’encourage toujours les futurs psychothérapeutes à se faire analyser. « Votre principal instrument est votre moi. Apprenez sur lui tout ce que vous pouvez. Ne laissez pas vos points aveugles bloquer l’accès à vos patients, vous empêcher de comprendre ce qu’ils ressentent. » Moi-même, je suis si étroitement lié à une seule femme depuis l’âge de qui

This drive to emotionally attach — to find someone to whom we can turn and say “Hold me tight” — is wired into our genes and our bodies. It is as basic to life, health, and happiness as the drives for food, shelter, or sex. We need emotional attachments with a few irreplaceable others to be physically and mentally healthy — to survive.

He takes responsibility for getting his own needs met.

these demand-distance spirals are all about attachment panic

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standard psychological Attachment Scale that measures your social style

Those new disciplines are neuroscience, the study of how the brain supports mental processes; developmental psychopathology, the study of the impact of adverse experiences on the development of mind and brain; and interpersonal neurobiology, the study of how our behavior influences the emotions, biology, and mind-sets of those around us.

the need to be near someone special is so important that the brain has a biological mechanism specifically responsible for creating and regulating our connection with our attachment figures (parents, children, and romantic partners). This mechanism, called the attachment system, consists of emotions and behaviors that ensure that we remain safe and