Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?: The Sunday Times bestseller, with over 1 million copies sold
Dr Julie Smithamazon.com
Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?: The Sunday Times bestseller, with over 1 million copies sold
Making a conscious decision to focus on the things we admire and appreciate about them is a relatively simple task that can shift not only your emotional state but how you then choose to behave towards them.
‘Are you there for me? Do I matter enough for you to stay? When I need you most, what are you going to do?’
creation of a relationship in which there is acceptance, non-judgement and unconditional positive regard.
Focusing use of language on concrete behaviours rather than global attacks on personality helps to keep everyone cool.
When tackling a difficult conversation, careful thought and preparation in how you will approach the conversation is more likely to go smoothly than allowing frustration to lead the way with a stream of criticism and contempt.
we can practise tuning into our partner’s bids for connection and attachment needs.
responding to those attachment cues with sensitivity, kindness and compassion, letting the other person know that they matter to you.