Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?: The Sunday Times bestseller, with over 1 million copies sold
Dr Julie Smithamazon.com
Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?: The Sunday Times bestseller, with over 1 million copies sold
Making a conscious decision to focus on the things we admire and appreciate about them is a relatively simple task that can shift not only your emotional state but how you then choose to behave towards them.
‘Are you there for me? Do I matter enough for you to stay? When I need you most, what are you going to do?’
creation of a relationship in which there is acceptance, non-judgement and unconditional positive regard.
Focusing use of language on concrete behaviours rather than global attacks on personality helps to keep everyone cool.
When tackling a difficult conversation, careful thought and preparation in how you will approach the conversation is more likely to go smoothly than allowing frustration to lead the way with a stream of criticism and contempt.
we can practise tuning into our partner’s bids for connection and attachment needs.