Breaking Free Activity #46 Read over the list of rules below. Try a few of them on for size. Add to the list your own personal rules. Write these rules on note cards and put them where you can see them every day. 1 If it frightens you, do it. 2 Don't settle. Every time you settle, you get exactly what you settled for. 3 Put yourself first. 4 No

Focus Do it now Accept "good enough" rather than "perfect" Finish what you start Don't star t new projects until the old ones are completely finished Don't make excuses Detach from other people's problems Share your strategy with a safe person. Check in with them on a regular basis to monitor how you are doing (failing to do this part would be an

Trying to do it right only sucked the life out of No More Mr. Nice Guy! Letting go and letting it just be "good enough" set me free to embrace my passion and create something of lasting value. This same principle applies to every area of the recovering Nice Guy's life. Breaking

What one man can do, another man can do.

A conscious decision to face fears. • A conscious decision to not settle for mediocrity. • A conscious decision to make my own rules. Think about

Bob, Here is roughly how I arrived at the new job. 1) Very first before anything else could happen I had to stop being a victim. 2) Began by setting boundaries. At first they were small ones and they grew with time. 3) From the boundaries being set and respected I started believing in myself. 4) Honesty came along somewhere during this time. 5)

Over the next year and a half Charlie lived by one credo: If he was afraid of something, he confronted that fear. Charlie's

Self-Sabotage Prevents Nice Guys From Getting the Life They Want Because of their fear of success, Nice Guys are masters of self-sabotage. They undermine their success by: • Wasting time. • Making excuses. • Not finishing projects. • Caretaking other people. • Having too many projects going at once. • Getting caught up in chaotic relationships. •

• Seeking external validation and approval keeps Nice Guys stuck in mediocrity. • Attempting to hide flaws and mistakes prevents Nice Guys from taking risks or trying something new. • Following the rules make Nice Guys rigid, cautious, and fearful.