Morgan Gumber
@mogumbo
Morgan Gumber
@mogumbo
It’s that you are disliked by someone. It is proof that you are exercising your freedom and living in freedom, and a sign that you are living in accordance with your own principles.
Aristotle makes a distinction between being admired and being loved. When you admire people, you put them on pedestals. When you love people, you want to be together.
But I know the truth. You have to be known to be loved, and none of these waving people knows me.
“To be loved equally,” I continued, “is somehow to be loved less. To be loved uniquely—for one’s own special self—is to be loved as much as we need to be loved.”
don’t be someone you are not just to gain someone’s love. If you do, the person that your loved one is loving is not you. It is the role that you are playing and not your true self who is being loved.
Researchers Penelope Lockwood and Ziva Kunda found that the difference between being inspired by a role model and being demoralized by one comes down to two things: relevance and attainability. When you relate to someone you look up to, you get motivated. And when that person makes you feel you can do that too, bang—that produces real results.