self concept

Aristotle makes a distinction between being admired and being loved. When you admire people, you put them on pedestals. When you love people, you want to be together.

Krista Tippett • Becoming Wise: An Inquiry into the Mystery and the Art of Living

But I know the truth. You have to be known to be loved, and none of these waving people knows me.

Glennon Doyle • Love Warrior (Oprah's Book Club): A Memoir

You gotta bump into people and let them mold you a tiny bit. Ding you up. Dent you, expand you, inflate you, deflate you. You have to be in and of this world if you want to reflect this world back to others.

Jasmine Bina • Surviving Your Personal Brand

don’t be someone you are not just to gain someone’s love. If you do, the person that your loved one is loving is not you. It is the role that you are playing and not your true self who is being loved.

John Townsend • Boundaries in Dating: How Healthy Choices Grow Healthy Relationships

Researchers Penelope Lockwood and Ziva Kunda found that the difference between being inspired by a role model and being demoralized by one comes down to two things: relevance and attainability. When you relate to someone you look up to, you get motivated. And when that person makes you feel you can do that too, bang—that produces real results.

Eric Barker • Barking Up the Wrong Tree: The Surprising Science Behind Why Everything You Know About Success Is (Mostly) Wrong

Your habits create your mood, and your mood is a filter through which you experience your life.

Brianna Wiest • 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think

being intentional about mindset

You become what you give your attention to.

– Epictetus

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