Boundaries in Dating: How Healthy Choices Grow Healthy Relationships

Stay integrated morally and don’t get caught in the saint/sinner split. Remember that you’re both good and bad.

God’s forgiveness is available to anyone, no matter what you have done. It will allow you to have a clean slate and start over with good sexual boundaries.

Use experienced, spiritually mature people for support. Avoid those who idealize you as the innocent victim and see him as nothing but a creep. These sorts of friends can bolster your confidence, but do little to help you be objective and neutral. They tend to divide relationships and can often instill a sense of entitled arrogance in others which

While they are using them, they are keeping them back from finding someone who will truly value them.

So many people naively think they will meet a kindred spirit who will never have an argument with them—only gentle disagreements that will work out easily in a spirit of mutuality. And they are devastated or lose hope when they find themselves having long-term conflicts over responsibility, control, and freedom.

Just like a drug addict is not growing when he or she is using drugs, your soul is not growing if you are acting out lust.

Find some one who loves God and who you can grow with. Then enjoy the journey together!

Boundaries actually cure problems of irresponsibility, domination, and manipulation. When someone who is out of control encounters a person who cannot be controlled, he is then faced with the reality of his own consequences and frailties.

He looks at us all as broken people whom he makes new again. With his forgiveness, you can start all over and be as clean as when you began.