evanovich
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Geeky. Gay. Guy. Lost Angeles. Project/Program mgmt. Design. Tech. Actualization. Art. Insight. Nature.
@evancm
Geeky. Gay. Guy. Lost Angeles. Project/Program mgmt. Design. Tech. Actualization. Art. Insight. Nature.
While the image of the event may not return visually, as it often would if you had post traumatic stress disorder, your emotional flashback may show up in other ways such as negative self-talk, a knot in your stomach, tightness in the chest, or a flood of fear, shame and powerlessness.
these parents may manage to fulfil all the requirements society sets regarding primary care, such as providing clothing and schooling, yet in these cases, the lack of outside corroboration of what is happening can make the invisible wounds more psychologically damaging. In some homes, there is even the pressure to maintain the illusion of a happy f
... See moreSome research found that ongoing negative feedback towards the young person’s intuitive perception is the most damaging (Park et al., 1992). If the parents explicitly or implicitly reject the child’s idiosyncrasies, the child will internalize the shame of rejection and experience themselves as being profoundly bad (toxic shame), and their natural g
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Imi Lo
Though history cannot be changed, you can rewrite the story that you tell yourself. You are in no way ‘bad’ or ‘too much’. You are a sensitive, intuitive, gifted individual who might have been deprived of the right kind of nourishment during childhood. Your high level of awareness and acuity to subtleties is both rare and incredibly precious. If yo
... See moreUncovering what lies underneath your past can seem threatening, but false tranquillity upheld by a facade of ‘okay-ness’ is fragile and short-lived. In the end, self-deception is toxic; unmourned pains and unspoken words can only lie dormant for so long.
Childhood wounding does not always take a physical form. Our society typically recognizes the horror of physical child neglect, but not the emotional pain that comes from inadequate or deficient parenting. Psychological damage can happen in all sorts of subtle and invisible ways, from a caregiver’s lack of awareness, subtle put-downs, neglect, and
... See moreand regardless of all the stupendous scientific knowledge we can summon at will, people often end up feeling that their lives have been wasted, that instead of being filled with happiness their years were spent in anxiety and boredom.
To avoid the bad feelings, the child slowly learns to identify only with what he thinks of as “good” and to deny anything “bad” as part of who he is. He actually starts limiting his identity to only include what he has come to believe is “acceptable” in the eyes of his parents. Yet another child may despair altogether of getting any good strokes fr
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