Creating and blaming an enemy is a vicious, inescapable spiral of doom. It made me blind to my personal agency. It stunted my ability to act on my own behalf.
Instead of feeling empowered, I came to believe that if THEY don’t change, I can’t be happy. I’m stuck, and it’s their fault. I must sit here and tap tap tap at them until they acquiesce and hand me happiness.
This paradigm is the lifeblood of social media.
Without it, the addictive dopamine/adrenaline high attained from reading and replying to our side and attacking their side doesn’t have the same payoff. But it’s terrible for us.
Truth!