relationship with self

“Someone has a great fire in his soul and nobody ever comes to warm themselves at it, and passers-by see nothing but a little smoke at the top of the chimney and then go on their way.” — Vincent van Gogh

"We forget most of our past but embody all of it." — John Updike

“And now that you don't have to be perfect, you can be good.”

-John Steinbeck

Once people do not trust themselves, they are subject to easy manipulation.

the self is no longer a subject but a project . The self is something to be optimised, to be maximised, to be made efficient, cultivated for its capacity for productive output. The worry is that all life activities become viewed as lines on a résumé. Knowingly or otherwise, we risk being constantly governed by the question How is what I’m doing

• “If I couldn’t judge my friend for showing off, I would have to feel my own hurt at not being seen.”


• “If I couldn’t judge my coworker for being disorganized, I would have to feel my own