friendship

I’m increasingly convinced it’s much easier (and happier) to assume strangers are friends you haven’t met yet, than to assume strangers will remain strangers.

It's like we're living separate lives that we then tell each other about, not sharing in the living itself.

Hot take: is it harder to make friends these days because we have actually become more shallow? In Nicomachean Ethics, Aristotle characterizes three types of friendships: friendships of utility (based on mutual usefulness), friendships of pleasure (based on shared hobbies and… Show more

People don't talk about the soul very much anymore. It's so much easier to write a resume than to craft a spirit. But a resume is a cold comfort on a winter night, or when you're sad, or broke, or lonely, or when you've gotten back the test results and they're not so good.

Here is my resume: I am a good mother to three children. I have tried never t

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the best relationships come out of creating something together

For example, social scientists see there are strong preferences for friends to be loyal, trustworthy and warm. Additionally, researchers find there are preferences for friends who help you solve specific kinds of problems and are generous and caring with you instead of others. These preferences help people navigate making friends, given limited res... See more

A beautiful quote from John O’Donahue, on friendship and conversations:

When was the last time you had a great conversation? A conversation that wasn’t just two intersecting monologues, but when you overheard yourself saying things you never knew you knew, that you heard yourself receiving from somebody words that found places within you that you th

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