in the past, I used to be very anxious about whether my crush liked me back. the reason I didn't feel any anxiety as my now-gf and I got together is because it felt predetermined: either we were in the timeline where we were compatible, or we were in the timeline where we weren't
It is said that traditions are answers to enduring questions, and so dispensing with them because we do not understand them (or "see the point of them") is an unfortunate way to squander this inheritance.
I wrote this song for Patrick, for our ten year anniversary. I wanted to write a love song that described deep-rooted companionship, where the spark of new love has been replaced by a gravitational pull.
Three ways you unconsciously sabotage yourself:
1 Being afraid of conflict creates conflict in yourself
2 Being afraid of failure makes you play it safe (and then feel like a failure)
3 Being afraid of being alone makes you stay in relationships where you feel alone
If we keep lumping these two together and think that aversion obviously is discomfort and discomfort obviously is aversion, then we never get a good understanding of this very basic issue. It is as though a part of us thought that the function of pleasant things is to generate attachment and the function of unpleasant things is to generate aversion... See more