Christina
@christinahb
Christina
@christinahb
Our struggle switch is like an emotional amplifier—switch it ON and we can have anger about our anxiety, anxiety about our anger, depression about our depression, or guilt about our guilt.
Steal five dollars and you were a petty thief. Steal thousands of dollars and you were either a government or a hero.
whether a thought is true is not that important. Far more important is whether it’s helpful.
The three basic steps of expansion are: observe your feelings, breathe into them, and allow them to come and go.
these control strategies have three significant costs: 1. They take up a lot of time and energy and are usually ineffective in the long run. 2. We feel silly, defective, or weak-minded because the thoughts/feelings we’re trying to get rid of keep coming back. 3. Many strategies that decrease unpleasant feelings in the short-term actually lower our
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Notice that you haven’t challenged the thought at all. You haven’t tried to get rid of it, debated whether it’s true or false, or tried to replace it with a positive thought.