Psychology
It’s not that Irish people have more historical trauma to mine, she said, or that Americans love Irish shit. It’s that her civilization believes art matters — and funds it accordingly, as part of public infrastructure. They believe art makes life navigable. Its actual value is beyond measure, and like a lot of invaluable things, its survival hinges... See more
This is How We Fall Out of Love with the World
The values-focused life will always be more fulfilling than the goal-focused life because you get to appreciate the journey even as you’re working towards your goals.
Russ Harris • The Happiness Trap: Stop Struggling, Start Living
The three basic steps of expansion are: observe your feelings, breathe into them, and allow them to come and go.
Russ Harris • The Happiness Trap: Stop Struggling, Start Living
Like a butterfly pinned to a table, however, happiness dies unless it is held lightly.
Russ Harris • The Happiness Trap: Stop Struggling, Start Living
Our struggle switch is like an emotional amplifier—switch it ON and we can have anger about our anxiety, anxiety about our anger, depression about our depression, or guilt about our guilt.
Russ Harris • The Happiness Trap: Stop Struggling, Start Living
I invite you now to consider a new definition: success in life means living by your values.
Russ Harris • The Happiness Trap: Stop Struggling, Start Living
The bottom line is not whether a thought is positive or negative, true or false, pleasant or unpleasant, optimistic or pessimistic, but whether it helps you create a fulfilling life.
Russ Harris • The Happiness Trap: Stop Struggling, Start Living
these control strategies have three significant costs: 1. They take up a lot of time and energy and are usually ineffective in the long run. 2. We feel silly, defective, or weak-minded because the thoughts/feelings we’re trying to get rid of keep coming back. 3. Many strategies that decrease unpleasant feelings in the short-term actually lower our
... See moreRuss Harris • The Happiness Trap: Stop Struggling, Start Living
Changing or getting rid of it is not the goal. The goal is to make peace with it; to let it to be there, even if you don’t like it or want it.