Through the eyes of an imbalanced patriarchy, matriarchy is invisible. Matriarchy is not patriarchy with women substituted into men’s patriarchal roles. It is not women exercising the kind of power that men have in patriarchy. Matriarchy enacts another kind of power entirely, one that the modern mind cannot easily recognize.
The great lie underneath it all is that once you collect enough mental models, you can skip the leap of faith. You can build a propositional bridge from your current self to your ideal self, and faithlessly slide across it. A seductive idea. But wrong and useless.