Christina Ducruet
@stina
Long time internet nerd; seamstress of people and ideas; designing experiences for soulful self-discovery
Christina Ducruet
labyrxnth.com
Meaningful friendships develop when things are intense, and involve peril, beauty, jeopardy, drama and self-development
Why is it so difficult to cultivate meaningful friendships?
When we are grieving record stores, mixtapes, old-school romance, and friends goofing around in ‘90s high schools, what are we actually grieving? Delayed gratification. Deeper connection. Play and fun. Risk and thrill. Life with less obsessive self-scrutiny. These are things we can reclaim—if we remember what they are worth and roll back the... See more
But this emphasis on belonging may obscure a deeper truth: beneath this so-called crisis of “belonging” is a crisis of “membership.” Whereas belonging can be read as an individual feeling that passively arises in us, membership is a type of communal relationship into which we are invited and to which we are asked to actively contribute. Membership... See more
Nothing sustains motivation better than belonging to the tribe. It transforms a personal quest into a shared one. Previously, you were on your own. Your identity was singular. You are a reader. You are a musician. You are an athlete. When you join a book club or a band or a cycling group, your identity becomes linked to those around you. Growth and
... See moreJames Clear • Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones
The simple fact is that the most significant, satisfying, and enduring experiences that we have are experiences of meaning found through relationships with other human beings, with ourselves, and ultimately with something much greater than ourselves.
Kabir Helminski • The Mysterion: Rumi and the Secret of Becoming Fully Human
Witnessing is one of the extraordinary powers of community. There are certain passages and initiations that require the presence of others to help hold the bigness of the new narrative while it stabilizes in our bodies, minds and hearts. When we leave behind an old identity for a new form of belonging, there are always moments when we are tempted
... See moreToko-pa Turner • Belonging: Remembering Ourselves home
I met some of my heroes and some of them sucked; I attended events that were hollow and demented but looked fun online; I eventually realized the best parts of my life weren’t exclusive whatsoever but run-of-the-mill: a result not of being elevated above my peers (on a stage, say) but thrust among them (in the crowd). In time I came to see these... See more
Haley Nahman • #221: “The tension of staying too long”
You feel truly connected to the world and to a sense of home. New ideas come from being in this place. On the deepest level, this zone is a spiritual place. We meet the spiritual world most immediately through our relationships to others.