Sublime

love relationships,

Peut-être ferais-je mieux au moins de patienter un peu, avant de voler à votre secours, en attendant d’avoir la certitude que vous souhaitez réellement être aidé. Le célèbre psychologue humaniste Carl Rogers était persuadé qu’il était impossible d’entamer une relation thérapeutique si la personne qui cherchait de l’aide refusait de s’améliorer67

Getting to know what triggers shame for you.

What all these attachment wounds often turn into is a belief that mistreatment and misfortune is earned through behavior.

four behaviors that Bowlby and she believed were basic to attachment: that we monitor and maintain emotional and physical closeness with our beloved; that we reach out for this person when we are unsure, upset, or feeling down; that we miss this person when we are apart; and that we count on this person to be there for us when we go out into the wo

“professional marriage”

Author Susan Anderson says in The Journey from Abandonment to Healing that in a secure relationship, a romantic partner serves a similar function as a mother does for a securely attached child. In both cases, the relationship provides a primary sense of belonging, security, and connectedness. Speaking of adults, she writes, “Many people function as

it with the emotions you would like to feel more of in your everyday life instead of the low mood.

examining their own patterns of behaviour that impact on their experience of life.