Jolaade Taiwo
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Jolaade Taiwo
it's weird that at a given age, 45 say, someone can't just write down the compressed/compiled topline notes on everything they've learned about life, and then just hand that to someone at 20, saving them 25 years of lessons. why that doesn't work is a somewhat instructive Q
norvid_studiesx.com“In Senegal, the polite expression for saying someone died is to say his or her library has burned. When I first heard the phrase, I didn’t understand it, but over time I came to realize it was perfect. Our minds and souls contain volumes inscribed by our experiences and emotions; each individual’s consciousness is a collection of memories we’ve
... See moreI have suggested that women look at men this way: if they took away their own network of intimate friends, those with whom they share their personal journey, removed their sense of instinctual guidance, concluded that they were almost wholly alone in the world, and understood that they would be defined only by standards of productivity external to... See more
Bromance:
"Men have the ability, the need and the desire to form deep and intimate friendships just as much as women... Male friendship is so fraught that we as a culture have invented a special term to characterize the extraordinary phenomenon of two men having dinner together."
– Liz Plank, For the Love of Men
hypervigilance required to maintain masculine performance.
"Masculinity is much more rigid and requires constant self-regulation... Even if a man squats three hundred pounds, biting into beef jerky with one hand and fighting a hungry bear with the other, his masculinity would still be put into question for ordering a drink that comes in a cosmo
... See more"If you look through nineteenth-century photos of men, you'll notice right away that male friendship has undergone a massive transformation. It used to be common for men to seek a photographer's services to capture them holding hands, sitting on each other's laps and being physically intimate."
– Liz Plank, For the Love of Men
Love this
instagram.comGrief is a weird thing. It can be a monster on your shoulder. It can be a friend sitting with you at the table. It can be a memory in a smell—the soft, delicate notes of floral perfume. Grief can find you in the middle of the night as you roll over to go back to sleep. It can even find you in your dreams.
Ashley Poston • The Seven Year Slip
The grief psychologist William Worden takes into account these questions by replacing stages with tasks of mourning. In his fourth task, the goal is to integrate the loss into your life and create an ongoing connection with the person who died while also finding a way to continue living.