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For half a century, psychology has labored to teach us how to raise ourselves up from the inferiority of shame. But we’ve done a terrible job of helping people come down from the superiority of grandiosity—the sense of being above other people, contemptuous of the rules.
Bruce Springsteen • Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship (Goop Press)
interpersonal difficulties
Kevin Dutton • The Wisdom of Psychopaths
They catapult the conversation from mundane matters to the issue of security and survival.
Sue Johnson • Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love
Practice “Just Because I Choose To”
Steven Hayes • A Liberated Mind: The essential guide to ACT
rudeness, meanness, and cruelty are a mask for deep-seated weakness.
Ryan Holiday • The Daily Stoic: 366 Meditations on Wisdom, Perseverance, and the Art of Living: Featuring new translations of Seneca, Epictetus, and Marcus Aurelius
This means helping them to respond appropriately to danger but, even more, to recover the capacity to experience safety, relaxation, and true reciprocity.
Bessel van der Kolk • The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma
This strategy is consistent with therapeutic strategies that encourage self-compassion.
Stephen W. Porges • The Pocket Guide to the Polyvagal Theory: The Transformative Power of Feeling Safe (Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology)
They have not got away with injuring us; their punishment lies in the pain they must be enduring in order to have such an urgent need to lash out. We, who have no wish to hurt, are in fact the stronger party; we, who have no wish to diminish others, are truly powerful. We can move from helpless victims to imaginative witnesses of justice. This may
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