Sublime

Chronic overspending Other disorders of impulse control like kleptomania and pyromania

tended to deteriorate under pressure, becoming more forgetful, irritable, prone to angry outbursts, intolerant

It is clear that stress drives up rates of depression. The biggest stress is humiliation; the second is loss.

This suggested that for many traumatized people, reexposure to stress might provide a similar relief from anxiety.17 It was an interesting experiment, but it did not fully explain why Julia kept going back to her violent pimp.

In 2002 Ronnie Janoff-Bulman wrote an influential book on trauma entitled Shattered Assumptions. That title captures a lot about the nature of trauma. Trauma shatters you, but not in the places you’d expect. It rips the rug out from beneath you; it rips out the very floor beneath your feet.

A child exposed to unpredictable or extreme stress will become what we call dysregulated.

…none of us really believe in our own demise. Some things are so vast or overwhelming that we effectively pretend they aren't there until reality forcefully obtrudes and our defences crumble.

Bodies stiffen in death.