Sublime

As responsible adults with sufficient knowledge, we have the power to take control of ourselves.

When we get trauma-triggered in our close relationships, our Wise Adult shuts off, and we are seized by our Adaptive Child. We feel “taken over” and we want to push back. When people first learn about this Adaptive Child part of them, usually their initial instinct is to want to control it, to see it as bad.

lived in careful listening.

Maybe, like children in dysfunctional families, they are forced out of their natural, valuable states into roles that sometimes can be destructive but are, they think, necessary to protect the person or the system they are in. So I started trying to help my clients listen to their troublesome parts rather than fight them, and was astounded to find

Different Voices

Psychoeducation typically touches on the following categories of adaptive information, depending on the client’s needs and informational deficits: Children are born with needs and cannot meet their own needs. Children are not responsible for what grown-ups do to them. Children who struggle to get their needs met are placed in an impossible

The first category of action systems that make up personality involves action systems that support individuals in efforts to adapt to daily life; the second category pertains to the action systems for defense from major threat, and recuperation. Whereas evolution has prepared us both for tasks of daily living and for survival under threat, we are

I believe Lebow and Spitzer are right; consciously or unconsciously, all too often we use feedback to try to mold other people into how we believe they should be.