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With over 40 percent of first marriages, over 60 percent of second marriages, and over 70 percent of third marriages ending in divorce,
Katherine Woodward Thomas • Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After
It’s a biological fact: men are more easily overwhelmed by marital conflict…
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John Gottman • The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert
they assume the worst about each other to such a pervasive degree that they become trapped in an absorbing state of negativity that I call the Roach Motel for Lovers. This horrible place is marked by endless conflict and bad feelings. Couples “check in” to it and then discover they can’t get out. When couples become trapped in the Roach Motel, they
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Take a moment to articulate your own Adaptive Child’s losing strategy profile. Then try your hand at your partner’s. When you are in the right mood, this makes for a good parlor game. Share with each other what you think, then compare notes. How well did you get each other?
Bruce Springsteen • Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship (Goop Press)
She has complained about these behaviors for years and Alan admits to every fault she finds, promising to behave differently.
Adam Smith • Exhausted Wives, Bewildered Husbands: Why your marriage is hurting, and how to blossom as a couple
More important, it seemed that men switched to more casual sex when they were in the minority – when women were forced to compete for men and, as a result, could exert less power over them.
Robin Dunbar • Friends: Understanding the Power of our Most Important Relationships
Marriage can offer the best return on investment of any decision you can make, or it can be the costliest mistake of your life. Partnering with a woman is one helluva gamble. Without the proper skills and knowledge, you may have better luck with a roulette wheel.
Shawn T. Smith • The Tactical Guide to Women: How Men Can Manage Risk in Dating and Marriage
Men are not biologically “built” for marriage. A corollary to the notion that affairs cause divorce, this theory holds that men are philanderers by nature and are therefore ill suited for monogamy. But whatever natural laws other species follow, among humans the frequency of extramarital affairs does not depend on gender so much as on opportunity.
... See moreJohn Gottman • The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert
The advice I used to give couples earlier in my career was pretty much what you’d hear from virtually any marital therapist at the time—nothing but the same old pointers about conflict resolution and communication skills. But after looking squarely at my own data, I had to face the harsh facts: getting couples to disagree more “nicely” might reduce
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