Sublime

According to their “dual control model,” the sexual response mechanism in our brains consists of a pair of universal components—a sexual accelerator and sexual brakes—and those components respond to broad categories of sexual stimuli—including genital sensations, visual stimulation, and emotional context. And the sensitivity of each component

women and is associated with problems with getting aroused, lack of interest or desire, and difficulty with orgasm.

like in chapter 6 we’ll learn that genital response is learning while the conscious experience of being “turned on” is learning + liking.

atenção sexual masculina e o impulso de controlar o corpo feminino andam de mãos dadas.

Excitement. As stimulation begins, her heart rate, blood pressure, and respiration rate increase, and her labia minora and the clitoris darken and swell, separating the outer labia. The walls of the vagina begin to lubricate and then lengthen. Her breasts swell and the nipples become erect. Late in excitement, she may begin to sweat. Plateau.

As Lorde writes, “Erotic is not only a question of what we do; it is a question of how acutely and fully we can feel in the doing.”4

Physical activity is the single most efficient strategy for completing the stress response cycle and recalibrating your central nervous system into a calm state.

When you make oxytocin, your cortisol levels will drop, balancing out your insulin levels and leading to better sex hormone production. You might know oxytocin as the love hormone. Getting more of this hormone is super fun!

if you’re not metabolizing, breaking down, and removing estrogen as efficiently as possible, an excessive amount will accumulate in the bloodstream and lead to menstrual, fertility, and libido issues.