where to look for more answers

why I wrote this book

sexuality functions that determines whether your sex life is characterized by worry and distress… or by confidence and joy. It’s your capacity to welcome your sexuality as it is right now. To get there, we’ve discussed anatomy, physiology, behavioral and comparative psychology, evolutionary psychology, health psychology, moral psychology, gender

conclusion YOU ARE THE SECRET INGREDIENT

The most important thing you can do to have a great sex life is to welcome your sexuality as it is, right now—even if it’s not what you wanted or expected it to be. Letting go of old, bogus cultural standards requires a grieving process, going through the little monitor’s pit of despair. To facilitate that letting go, develop the skill of

tl;dr

“to feel normal”

nonjudging 5: mourning the “shoulds”

This is a strange truth about nonjudgment. When you turn toward suffering with nonjudgment, the suffering diminishes as wounds heal. When you turn toward pleasure with nonjudgment, it expands to fill the space judgment once filled. I don’t know why this is true, but it’s an essential fact about nonjudgment.