Sublime

If all men are Just Being Themselves and are encouraged to be the person they ‘truly are’, this then aids a woman in determining which man will best satisfy her hypergamy.

“When I try to talk to him about something that is bothering me, he tries to fix it. He thinks that if I just did everything his way, it would solve all my problems.

Alan found creative ways to get the attention of women while avoiding putting his penis in their vaginas. (I refer to this common Nice Guy behavior as “flirting without fucking.” As long as the Nice Guy doesn’t put his penis in a vagina, he can exchange all kinds of sexual energy yet convince himself he hasn’t really had sex or hasn’t done anything

In 2007, I launched four, four-week online Dating Essentials for Men courses. These courses were a compilation of what I had learned through trial and error and a lot of fucking practice. The courses became an instant success because they offered a breath of fresh air from programs that teach men to be cocky/funny, spin plates, or use canned pickup

I encourage recovering Nice Guys to begin this process with a therapist, therapy group, 12-step group, a religious leader, or close friend. Since Nice Guys tend to seek out the approval of women, I strongly encourage them to begin this process with men.

By focusing on their relationship instead of their partner, recovering Nice Guys are able to use their partner to get in touch with their childhood experiences of abandonment, neglect, abuse, and smothering.

His defective paradigm prevented him from seeing that no matter what he did, his wife would still at times be cold, critical, and unavailable, and that maybe he needed her to be that way.

At times, like most Nice Guys, I’m “a slow learner and a quick forgetter.”