This Book Will Make You Dangerous: The Irreverent Guide For Men Who Refuse to Settle

Years ago, as a new coach, I was working too much, not earning enough, and wondering what the hell was wrong with me. Why can’t I be happy? Do I need to go to therapy? Do I need to learn how to get better at tolerating crap? At the time, it didn’t occur to me that I could raise my fees and work less. Why? Because I was so afraid of taking a loss. I

When I first started coaching, I was so serious about “getting it right” that it made me want to quit. In each session, my head was full of critical voices focusing on my performance. I imagined I was constantly on the verge of screwing something up. And because I was so afraid to get fired, I stayed in my shell and wouldn’t take any risks.

And number three, we begin to train ourselves to be with the tension and discomfort that arises as we approach the edge of our comfort zone.

These are some very basic, simple ways for us to practice stepping into our authority. And while clarifying what we want is essential, it’s only part of the process. If we’re looking at the metaphorical dinner menu of life, and we don’t like the options listed on the page, then who says we have to settle for what’s written down? If we’re no longer

Whether we’re talking about our personal growth, our fitness, our business development, our relationships, or whatever — like we did earlier, we want to look at the places in our life where we feel trapped or drained or isolated or stressed out. These are the doorways to greater expansion. We want to get curious and listen to the message that our p

By practicing this bold, powerful way of living, we don’t wait for permission or opportunities to show up. We create those opportunities. Instead of engaging in power struggles with others, we invite them to co-create with us.

Even though the game only cost a quarter (back then), we may have lost sight of the fact that we were playing a game. Today, while we may no longer be scrounging around in sofa cushions looking for quarters to play an arcade game, many of us are approaching our lives with this same mentality. We really believe so much in our lives is final. This pr

Unfortunately, this mentality has it backwards. What’s true is that we build excitement, confidence, momentum, and experience by taking action — by learning lessons along the way. These attributes are a product of engaging our challenges. Waiting around for them to show up is a trap. One

it’s our fixation on what’s missing that will eclipse the good fortune we already have — not just today but also the day we accomplish that goal. The good news is that we can expand our sense of peace by simply practicing gratitude for what we already have, while also creating what we want.

Grab your journal or whatever you like to write with. And then, let’s get curious about your frustration — whatever’s draining you, whatever has you feeling trapped, whatever is zapping your peace of mind.