Sublime

When we mature, many of us realize that we are living out a complex story, a great drama that is much orchestrated by our feelings.

From the IFS point of view, the quieting of the mind associated with mindfulness happens when the parts of us usually running our lives (our egos) relax, which then allows parts we have tried to bury (exiles) to ascend, bringing with them the emotions, beliefs, and memories they carry (burdens) that got them locked away in the first place. Most of

ego’s first attempts to enhance itself through identification with the outward movement and the concept

You know a relationship matters to you in a healthy way when you are willing to act over the awkwardness of the small but scary steps that lead to change: 1. Notice which behavior of yours leads to problems for you or your partner. See through such excuses as: “This is how I am!” or “But I’m right.” Acknowledge the fear or pain behind any behavior

The healthy ego—what Freud called “a coherent organization of mental processes”—is the part of us that can observe self, situations, and persons; assess them; and…

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To break free from such a tangle involves first of all letting go of the following illusions: 1. I am a solid identity separate from everything else around me. This duality is visible only to ego. As I progress in consciousness, I enjoy another perspective (that of my spiritual Self) which sees only unity and the marriage of apparent opposites. The

This method has two characteristics. The first is the training of attention, which gradually draws together the scattered threads of what one thinks, feels, says, and does. In this process conflicts resolve, gradually bringing about the complete integration of personality.