Sublime

The car had already cleaned up its once bloody reputation in cities, less by killing fewer people than by enlisting others to share the responsibility for the carnage.

Looking for joint contribution is not about blame of any kind. Imagine that you are mugged while walking alone down a dark street late at night. Blame asks: “Did you do something wrong? Did you break the law? Did you act immorally? Should you be punished?” The answer to all of these questions is no. You didn’t do anything wrong; you didn’t deserve

PHILOSOPHER: Suppose that as a result of following your boss’s instructions, your work ends in failure. Whose responsibility is it then?

Poor listening is more than forgivable rudeness: it’s a breach of trust and not a quality of leading with love.

Eventually, there are so many drivers that traffic crawls at a snail’s pace. As individuals, each person feels he or she is a victim of the traffic. But in effect, they all conspired as a group to create the traffic which blocks them.

Rather than exploring how her own patterns of criticism and verbal aggression might have contributed to the rift, Katrina believed that her children’s character flaws caused the estrangement.

Blame is a coping strategy. But as a coping strategy, it is both easy to fall back on and highly ineffective.

Never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by stupidity. —Hanlon’s razor