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It is one of those simple but beautiful paradoxes of life: When a person feels that he is truly accepted by another, as he is, then he is freed to move from there and to begin to think about how he wants to change, how we wants to grow, how he can become different, how he might become more of what he is capable of being.
Thomas Gordon • Parent Effectiveness Training: The Proven Program for Raising Responsible Children
Adlerian psychology is not saying “have confidence in others unconditionally” on the basis of a moralistic system of values. Unconditional confidence is a means for making your interpersonal relationship with a person better and for building a horizontal relationship. If you do not have the desire to make your relationship with that person better,
... See moreIchiro Kishimi, Fumitake Koga • The Courage to Be Disliked: The Japanese Phenomenon That Shows You How to Change Your Life and Achieve Real Happiness
The simple act of getting these other parts to open more space inside seemed to release someone who had curiosity but who was also calm and confident relative to the critic.
Ph.D. Richard Schwartz • No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model
replaced by a genuine desire to help others. The core thought when operating at this level is concern, which leads to compassion and service. At this level, you no longer take words or actions personally. You don’t waste time worrying about what others may have done “to” you. Instead, you consider what each person’s current problem may be, and how
... See moreBruce D. Schneider • Energy Leadership
Analyses of others are actually expressions of our own needs and values.