you don’t need to understand yourself fully. you can’t. you are an organism of complexity beyond your own comprehension
all you need to do is notice what you notice, meet it with love & warmth, and allow yourself space to bloom
starting to suspect having a good conversation and feeling connected is not primarily eye contact or asking a lot of questions or not talking about yourself or whatever, or even curiosity, but some yet more fundamental thing that drives all of it like ... joie de vivre??
i get the sense the core thing is actually quite simple, and all the indicators... See more