rob hardy

You don’t have community because you aren’t a good community member. You don’t host events, you don’t know how to cook, you don’t know how to dance, you don’t know how to sing, and you aren’t doing anything to learn. You can’t tell stories or jokes.

"Utopias are dreams of collective deliverance that in waking life are found to be nightmares."

- John Gray, Black Mass

The least sexy advice on behaviour change nobody wants to hear?

Lower your expectations.

We have a tendency to set goals in states of either excitement or desperation.

Which leads us to massively overestimate what we can commit to.

Especially in the beginning, prioritise ease over effectiveness.

I won’t play the game of denouncing or endorsing. The psycho-social patterning of “which side are you on” springs from one of the chief narratives of the mythology of Separation. It understands the world by simplifying it into a drama of good versus evil, and also simplifies the human beings who play roles in that drama into subhuman or superhuman ... See more

If you think you have to act a certain way in order to be loved, you’re not actually being loved

You’re being loved for someone you’re pretending to be, and that’s not being loved.

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“Poetry is pure risk. Really good poetry, that is. If you’re not afraid of writing it, something’s wrong.”

— Robin Coste Lewis

"The meaning of life is just to be alive. It is so plain and so obvious and so simple. And yet everybody rushes around in a great panic as if it were necessary to achieve something beyond themselves."

- Alan Watts