self trust

my impression of the individuation process is that we all know, at some level, what we need to do... we sense the truths we need to face & the actions we need to take

but it’s a lot of work & suffering and so we spend years trying to negotiate our way out of it. “must I really do this? must I?”

“surely there’s a hack and a shortcut... surely there’s... See more

one of the most exhausting habits, maybe even addictions, is the desire to want to be seen accurately, judged correctly, understood perfectly

there is power in letting distortion exist

when the need to be understood loosens, the energy returns to what actually wants to be made

Here are 13 things that every skilled chaos-surfer understands:

1. How something appears to you may not be how it is.


2. What is said or shown may not be all there is.


3. What is true for me may not be true for you.


4. The same words may mean different things to different people.


5. What people say may not be what they mean. Because comms is lossy and language is

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Forgiveness performed from obligation does two things: it excuses the behavior of others, and it reduces our ability to be conscious and present with the pain we truly feel.

When we rush to forgiveness, we lose our connection to our original wounds.

If you think you have to act a certain way in order to be loved, you’re not actually being loved

You’re being loved for someone you’re pretending to be, and that’s not being loved.

The desire to be special can only exist when you don’t know who you are.