rob hardy

I want to know

if you are prepared to live in a world

with its harsh need

to change you. If you can look back

with firm eyes

saying this is where I stand.

— David Whyte, 'Self-Portrait' [from Fire in the Earth]

Great conversations give us this gift: we receive more than we sought.

We find ourselves saying things we didn't know we knew, wanting things we didn’t know we wanted, becoming someone we didn’t yet know we could be. The path matters because the path changes us, and in changing us, it changes where we can go next.

Pretty much every marketing tactic is built around treating people as a means to some end (making money). In fact, Kant struggled much of his life with the ethical implications of capitalism and wealth inequality. He believed that it was impossible for anyone to amass a fortune without some degree of manipulation or coercion along the way.

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When you chase perfection, when you make perfection the ultimate goal, do you know what you’re doing? You’re chasing something that doesn’t exist. You’re making everyone around you miserable.

You’re making yourself miserable. Perfection? There’s about five times a year you wake up perfect, when you can’t lose to anybody, but it’s not those five

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One of the central myths of American romance right now is this notion that you and your partner should be able to tell each other anything and everything

I am begging you not to do this

There are so many things about you that are just for you, for your soul, as well as a whole other category of things that are only for your therapist or priest to... See more