rob hardy

Demons must be named to be defeated, just as our deepest and most vile urges or emotions must be acknowledged to be integrated

It sometimes feels like a shift that changes when observed, whose effects neutralize if paying too close of attention for whether “this” shift will be “the” shift. It’s perplexing that a salvific shift could itself be cunning, baffling, and powerful, not just the addiction.

You need to be service maxxing, looking for every opportunity to be of service to others and forgetting about yourself in the process.

1. The aim of my writing is never to make money. If there are opportunities, I will pay attention, but it is never the direct aim. I obsessively focus on other funding mechanisms such that I don't have to worry much about how to monetize writing.

2. I write for readers like me. I dislike a lot of the current trends in books. I think they dumb down... See more

“Have enough courage to trust love one more time and always one more time.”

— Maya Angelou

Kurt Vonnegut on picking a lane:

Find a subject you care about and which you in your heart feel others should care about. It is this genuine caring, and not your games with language, which will be the most compelling and seductive element in your style.

I am not urging you to write a novel, by the way—although I would not be sorry if you wrote one,... See more

People often destroy their relationships over their whims. "He doesn't go rock climbing with me." "She doesn't do this specific thing when we're having sex." They start to obsess over this lack, mistaking a flight of fancy for a great and vacuous unfulfilled desire that if satisfied, will fix everything. What could have been summarily dismissed... See more

The more you thank God for the life you have, the more your life starts to look like the one you want.