Perzen Patel
@perzen
I want to take you beyond butter chicken. Indian food advocate, small biz owner and story-teller by passion. Communications professional and writer by trade. Mom to two boys with 1,000,000 questions daily 24/7.
Perzen Patel
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fix a hard upper limit on the number of things that you allow yourself to work on at any given time. In their book Personal Kanban, which explores this strategy in detail, the management experts Jim Benson and Tonianne DeMaria Barry suggest no more than three items. Once you’ve selected those tasks, all other incoming demands on your time must wait
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This is followed by a leisurely twenty-minute shower, a late breakfast, a long nap, and then a meandering perusal through a variety of periodicals. Meanwhile, I am ferrying our daughter to birthday parties and playdates. On weekend evenings, Tom doesn’t check with me before he meets friends for drinks; he just breezes out the door with the assumpti
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Once we stop wishing it were summer, winter can be a glorious season when the world takes on a sparse beauty, and even the pavements sparkle. It’s a time for reflection and recuperation, for slow replenishment, for putting your house in order.
Katherine May • Wintering: The power of rest and retreat in difficult times
If we start aligning on our family values and having regular conversations about what’s important to us, everything changes. Instead of assuming others don’t care, we build a shared understanding of why things matter—and we can approach tasks as a team rather than individuals just checking boxes.
Here’s what this can look like:
Define Your Family Val... See more
Here’s what this can look like:
Define Your Family Val... See more
Marriage and equal partnership
Strategies to reduce mental load in a marriage
What wellness culture asserts, in essence, is that there is some higher state we can achieve, but only if we’re willing to put in the work. Our natural impulses, the ones that draw us to the buzz of sugar, the sting of salt, bright sweets and festive feasts, are all wrong according to the wellness mantra. The way to upper-middle-class white-girl he
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Recover quickly. After every point you lose, recover quickly. After every game you lose, recovery quickly. Don’t wallow in loss. After brain surgery, recover quickly.
In his words: “It’s okay to cry. It’s okay to feel lonely. It’s okay to be sad. It’s okay to feel that you are disappointed in yourself or in someone else. It’s okay. But what’s import... See more
In his words: “It’s okay to cry. It’s okay to feel lonely. It’s okay to be sad. It’s okay to feel that you are disappointed in yourself or in someone else. It’s okay. But what’s import... See more
The first step of any meaningful pursuit is to severely underestimate its difficulty.