Raising great kids
Rather than immediately stepping in to fix conflicts or ease discomfort, these parents empower their kids to navigate challenges themselves. Instead of dictating solutions, they ask:
“What do you think we could try to make this better?”
“Would you like some ideas, or do you want to try something first?”
“What do you think we could try to make this better?”
“Would you like some ideas, or do you want to try something first?”
Problem solving with kids
Start with what’s going on for you. Are you angry? Is that because you’re afraid? Or insecure? Maybe you’re just tired and feeling worn down. Or maybe your child’s behavior is reminding you of things in your life that were traumatizing, such as an accident. Take a moment to open up to what you’re feeling with curiosity and without harsh judgment. I
... See moreSteven Hayes • A Liberated Mind: The essential guide to ACT
Your thoughts create your feelings. If you believe that children shouldn’t raise their voices to the parent, every time this happens, you’ll feel like danger signs are flashing – and thus react/fight back. So instead, think: “My child is getting defiant. I notice I’m angry. Let me take a deep breath. I can choose what to do. There’s no emergency. M... See more
Farnam Street • Dr. Laura Markham: Peaceful Parenting [The Knowledge Project Ep. #52]
Self-regulation
You’ll hear this a lot too, but most of parenting is about regulating your own emotions, versus the child’s. That means remaining calm, collected, and receptive to whatever emotional experience your baby is having. If the baby seems unhappy or falls over or makes a weird sound and you freak out, they will pick up on that energy and p
... See moreCultivating a long attention span
Whatever he’s doing right now, that’s the most important thing. So I encourage him to keep doing it as long as possible. I never say, “Come on! Let’s go!”
We’ll go to the beach or forest, and make things with sticks and sand for half a day before he’s ready to switch.
Other families come to the playground for twent... See more
Whatever he’s doing right now, that’s the most important thing. So I encourage him to keep doing it as long as possible. I never say, “Come on! Let’s go!”
We’ll go to the beach or forest, and make things with sticks and sand for half a day before he’s ready to switch.
Other families come to the playground for twent... See more
Derek Sivers • Parenting : Who is it really for?
Parenting tip of the day: your kid will do something in the awkward in the stormy seas of the between years of tweenhood that makes them feel shame. This isn’t embarrassed. This isn’t frustrated. This is deep shame of self.
Look for this in your child.
Stop what you’re doing and love them well in this moment. Save them years of therapy if you can. ... See more
Look for this in your child.
Stop what you’re doing and love them well in this moment. Save them years of therapy if you can. ... See more
Whippman points out that patriarchy is not only terrible for women and girls, it ultimately works against boys and men too. It keeps them closed off, lonely, and isolated. I agree with her. Boys need to be taught that it’s okay to talk about their feelings and to want strong relationships. If they were taught these things, they may grow into differ... See more
